I've learned in my seven years working as a Birth Doula in Tulsa and surrounding areas that it's not the easiest question to answer. Sometimes we answer that question with a response based on what others want for us. Sometimes we answer based on guilt and assumptions of what we THINK we should want, or even what we WISHED we wanted. The problem with each of those scenarios is that they all create immense internal and external conflict.
To be honest, I had no business having a space among the die hard Pearl Jam fans on the floor of the BOK Center, seeing as I'm most familiar with their album TEN, that was originally released in 1991 when I was ten years old. Even though I didn't know as much of their more recent tracks until the concert, I didn't need to be a member of the fan club to be captivated by Eddie Vedder and his band that night. What I didn't realize is that Eddie Vedder would teach me a few things about myself, about birth, and about business that night.